Anger and Resentment in Relationships: How to Break the Cycle


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Introduction

Anger and resentment are common emotions in relationships, but when left unaddressed, they can create deep divisions between partners. At London Bridge Therapy, a premium London psychology and therapy clinic in Central London, we often see couples struggling with unresolved frustrations that build over time, leading to emotional distance and conflict. Understanding the roots of anger and resentment—and learning how to manage them—can help restore connection and harmony in your relationship.  

Why Do Anger and Resentment Build in Relationships?

Resentment often stems from unmet needs, unresolved conflicts, or feelings of being unheard or unappreciated. Over time, small grievances can accumulate, turning into lingering frustration that undermines the relationship. Some common triggers include:  

– Unfair division of responsibilities (e.g., household chores, childcare, finances)  

– Lack of appreciation or emotional support

 Unresolved past hurts that continue to resurface  

– Poor communication patterns that lead to misunderstandings  

 Feeling controlled, dismissed, or not valued by a partner

When these issues are not addressed, resentment can turn into anger, leading to recurring arguments, emotional withdrawal, or passive-aggressive behaviour.  

How Anger and Resentment Affect Relationships

Long-term resentment can create emotional distance and erode trust between partners. You may find yourselves caught in a cycle of blame, defensiveness, and frustration, making it difficult to feel close or safe in the relationship. In some cases, unresolved resentment can even contribute to emotional or physical disconnection, increasing the risk of relationship breakdown.  

Breaking the Cycle: How Relationship Counselling Can Help

At London Bridge Therapy, our expert therapists offer couples therapy and marriage counselling to help partners navigate these challenges. Through guided conversations and evidence-based techniques, we help couples:  

1. Identify the Root Causes of Resentment 

Understanding what is truly driving feelings of frustration can help both partners move beyond surface-level conflicts and address deeper emotional needs.  

2. Improve Communication and Conflict Resolution Skills

Learning to express emotions in a healthy, constructive way is essential. In couples therapy, we support partners with understanding how to listen with empathy, validate each other’s feelings, and communicate needs without criticism or blame.  

3. Rebuild Trust and Emotional Connection 

By addressing past hurts and creating new, positive interactions, couples can restore emotional intimacy and strengthen their bond.  

4. Develop Healthy Ways to Manage Anger

Our therapists provide practical tools to help partners manage anger in real time, reducing escalation and fostering a more peaceful relationship dynamic.  

When to Seek Professional Help

If resentment and anger are impacting your relationship, seeking professional support can be a transformative step. Marriage counselling and relationship therapy can help you break unhealthy patterns, develop deeper understanding, and build a stronger, more fulfilling partnership.  

At London Bridge Therapy, our team of experienced therapists provides compassionate, tailored support for couples facing these challenges. If you’re struggling with ongoing resentment in your relationship, we’re here to help.  

Get in touch

If you’d like to learn more about how couples therapy or marriage counselling can support your relationship, contact London Bridge Therapy, our leading Central London psychology clinic. Together, we can help you move from frustration to connection, creating a healthier and more fulfilling relationship.  

Book a consultation today to take the first step towards a more peaceful and connected partnership.e Therapy, we are dedicated to helping individuals recognise and address these patterns. If you find yourself in a situation where gaslighting is affecting your mental health and happiness, know that support is available. Our therapists provide a safe and compassionate environment to explore your experiences, heal, and move towards healthier relational patterns.

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